Behavioral Reconditioning - Talkin about it

[zuprion]

Hi, I guess I feel like it's a little unnatural to talk about how I am reconditioning my own physiology. However, I often feel this urge to want to tell people about it because I realize not having a Father around growing up (no male role model) during key teenage formative years became a repressed ball of confusion/fear/anger/resentment for a while. I always knew that something was "off". Now that I've corrected it, I feel like I should be helping others find the path. At the same time I feel like I should be developing alpha traits, one of which is what happens internally stays internally. One of the things I am hoping to get out of using the forums is to find a middle ground where I get these things out, and learn some other guys objective opinions. The guys that are my closest friends are married and/or not seeking out answers. It's kind of a confusing paradox going on inside of me. Similarly, a lot of the stuff being discussed on here is the kind of stuff that you actually BECOME after a while, so it's hard for it not to come up in discussion. It's really a lifestyle (not referring to lifestyle dating), but all the other stuff...awareness, meditation, chakras, etc.. So on the one hand we know it's exciting, wonderous, fun and life changing. However, I wonder if sharing information with a woman could potentially lead her to pre-judge what you are actually experiencing and benefiting from.

It may be easy to forget but we're all in the lush NG forest that's been created for us. It's like being one of the few people that gets to go to Mars, and then coming back all excited and trying to tell the unaware humans about what Mars is like, and they think you're a complete wack job. Nevertheless, the urge I have to talk about these things is real so how are you dealing with it? It's becoming apparent as I type here, I have an issue to handle because in reading this hate to say it, but it's like old behavior: subconsciously used to giving power away.

Anyone had any real world wisdom about whether or not to talk to people in casual conversation or a woman you may be seeing about benefits of behavioral reconditioning, NG, how the scale has been tilted in America in terms of women's behavior, etc? If yes, how have they reacted? Has it ever improved a relationship with a woman, or sabotaged it?

[akam]

Hi Zuprion,

My experience with talking to people about these things is that you really have to not care about being understood, about getting your point across. It's like they have to be ready to hear it, otherwise it can get awkward if you force it, especially if you have a NEED to share it.

I usually throw something out there casually and see where it lands.

For example:

I have some friends who have experience with meditation, so telling them about meditating to feminine energy was the most natural thing and an interesting conversation begun. Mind you, I still wasn't trying to "convert" them to natural grounding or anything, it was more of, hey I'll share something from my current life that's exciting for me.

I'll also talk about relational dynamics to some people, point out a situation where there's an obvious co-dependency or whatever, and usually the response has been like "ok, that's an interesting way to look at it" but it's still quite neutral.

I think of it like planting seeds, some people that I've talked to about chakras and "energies" have initially been resistant to "that new age bullshit", but later when they were ready they brought it up themselves and started asking about my experiences.

So I think as long as you don't care either way, you're going to find like minded people who you can share this powerful stuff with.

take care!