The purpose of natural grounding for me.

[seek]

Today I've had another one of those moments where I realise that Marcus and Kindred are absolutely right.

I've had a bit of a slow patch with grounding in the last month or so due to a heavy workload, not really having time to myself and also working too hard.

It's being frustrating because it's being difficult to get emotional but today I had a very emotional grounding session and also had a lot of flirting with women when I went out for coffee. Pretty much everywhere I went I had some really positive interactions with women, one particular instance I was in a coffee shop and I was looking through the window into a mall, I made eye contact with a number of women walking through and many of them smiled at me. What was crazy was they were like 10 mitres to 15 mitres away from me and it was really consistent at certain points.

I'm also feeling tired but really happy which I think is a very good sign.

I think I've come to the conclusion of what the real purpose of grounding is for me.

About six months ago I wrote about how my dad was diagnosed with skin cancer and then how things turned out well. We've had some scares since then but overall things have gone really well. I'm very grateful and very happy the way things turned out.

Last night I tried to do grounding but it was a very disappointing session. I always love Palmy (and Lisa who I recently discovered) but I just couldn't get into it. I knew I had some kind of block but I couldn't figure out what it was. I felt some kind of disconnect.

Today I woke up in a bad mood but I did some thinking. When my dad got cancer I blamed myself for it, like I had somehow caused it. On reflection it's silly that anyone would blame themselves for something like that but at the same time it's probably quite common. I think very few people really love themselves as much as they could and often it's because they blame themselves for something like their parents divorce, a family member getting sick etc. This probably cuts them of from abundance, whether it be abundance of money, abundance of intimacy or abundance of health.

I knew that I had to let go of this blame and I had to love myself and accept the fact that it was not my fault that my dad got sick.

That was my focus when I did natural grounding today and it was very powerful. I cried a lot.

I feel that natural grounding is extremely powerful when it's used for two things;

To heal a person so that can fully and deeply love themselves. I definitely experienced that today, I genuinely love myself and that was the feeling I had when I grounded to Palmy today. I watched Palmy sing Glua and I felt like she was giving me a hug and helping me to release the pain.

Before I was just grounding to get responses from women but at the same time I had repressed the feelings of self blame that I didn't know I had. It was like I was wanting to use women as a band aid to cover up my pain.

The second thing that I think grounding is great for is being genuinely sexually attracted to yourself. There is a grate affirmation by Cory Sky that goes something like "If I could clone myself I would fuck myself".

I definitely felt that today, I really loved being in my body and I felt like I wanted to make love to myself and it effected my body language my emotions in a very positive way.

I also love seeing the natural beauty and sexuality of women like Palmy and Bua etc but I think it's important to feel your own natural beauty and sexuality otherwise I feel like I'm leaching of people. I can almost imagine Palmy saying something like "I feel touched that you love me and everything but do you love yourself?"

So in short I feel that I've had the best grounding sessions (and best responses from women) when I do natural grounding as a form of self healing, releasing, loving myself , being attracted to myself through celebrating and appreciating the natural beauty and sexuality of women and knowing that women love me as well as loving them.

To me, when I'm doing natural grounding to "get some" it's not anywhere near as powerful. Like last night I was forcing myself to get emotional so that I could get positive responses from women so that I could feel better about myself (because I wasn't looking at the core issues that were holing me back). When I love and appreciate myself fully then I can manifest positive interactions with women very easily.

I realise that the indifference that Brent, Marcus and Jake talk about is natural when you fully love yourself and feel sexually attracted to yourself. Indifference to me is like the highest form of love because you are letting people be themselves rather then trying to influence them to give you something you want.

[blanch133]

You're spot on with this.. Its all about giving not about getting. I think patience and being consistent with your natural grounding is really helpful for this too. If you make a habit out of grounding and you put in a lot of time its easier (I think) to forget about getting results. It just becomes something you do and you let it affect you.

(and Lisa who I recently discovered)

...who is this?

[spaceman]

Beautifully said Seek. I find that indifference for me comes when I'm feeling complete in myself. When I feel complete I do not care if I have women in my life. I have realized that, for me, seeking women was a way to find completeness within myself. While I was seeking woman as a means to feel complete within myself I was subconsciously telling myself I was not complete in myself. I did not allow myself to feel complete because in my mind I believed I would be complete when I acquired the success with women I desired. Since I have stopped any pursuit of women I'm coming to realize more and more that feeling of completeness which has always been within me, only covered up.

All the best Seek!

[john]

GREAT post, seek. Really relevant for myself right now

Thanks,

John

[ivan]

Thanks for sharing this, Seek. Yeah as human beings we have a tendency to blame ourselves for the weirdest things. I can definetly relate to what you´re saying. When my son was late with his speech I questioned myself whether I´d done something wrong as to why he couldn´t speak. Tying in to what you say in your post - things worked out in the end, as they usually do. Great post.

[seek]

(and Lisa who I recently discovered)

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C97NJ5hEWRo

[seek]

Beautifully said Seek. I find that indifference for me comes when I'm feeling complete in myself. When I feel complete I do not care if I have women in my life. I have realized that, for me, seeking women was a way to find completeness within myself. While I was seeking woman as a means to feel complete within myself I was subconsciously telling myself I was not complete in myself. I did not allow myself to feel complete because in my mind I believed I would be complete when I acquired the success with women I desired. Since I have stopped any pursuit of women I'm coming to realize more and more that feeling of completeness which has always been within me, only covered up.

All the best Seek!

Yeah that's being my experience to. I sometimes think that being happy in myself and accepting the moment is a choice I make rather then something I have to work towards.

Thanks for sharing this, Seek. Yeah as human beings we have a tendency to blame ourselves for the weirdest things. I can definetly relate to what you´re saying. When my son was late with his speech I questioned myself whether I´d done something wrong as to why he couldn´t speak. Tying in to what you say in your post - things worked out in the end, as they usually do. Great post.

Yeah I agree with this. When my parents divorced when I was a kid I definitely blamed myself but it was so subtle that I didn't even know I was blaming myself.

[camaleon]

Yeah I agree with this. When my parents divorced when I was a kid I definitely blamed myself but it was so subtle that I didn't even know I was blaming myself.

You're right seek, we tend to blame ourselves sometimes, and on another ocassions we tend to
blame others also.
The beauty of NG is that we're grounding ourselves
to positive emotions and through this we're
'cutting and polishing the diamond'.

I still have some blockages and limiting
beliefs to work on.